As December unfolds and Christmas draws nearer, we may each find ourselves feeling a little differently about the season. Some of us feel the magic in the air, eagerly anticipating the joy of wrapping presents, cooking festive meals, meeting loved ones, and basking in the beauty of the holiday lights. For others, this time of year may bring up feelings of loss or difficult memories, especially if we’ve recently lost someone dear to us or have faced hardships around the holidays. Some might feel overwhelmed by family dynamics or the umpteenth time listening to Last Christmas or Let It Snow ... Or, perhaps, Christmas is simply not part of your tradition—in which case, this post might be relevant to your experience!
Whatever you’re feeling this season, know that it’s all valid. There is no “right” way to feel, no one-size-fits-all experience. Christmas is deeply personal, shaped by the unique memories and emotions we carry with us. And just as our experiences evolve over time, so do our expectations for this time of year.
For me, Christmas still holds a deep sense of magic. The child in me comes alive during this season, eagerly embracing the joy and wonder it brings. Yet, there are also aspects of the holiday that can be challenging. When I am fortunate enough to spend Christmas in Sardinia with my family, my heart swells with excitement to see them again. However, I sometimes set myself up for disappointment by expecting more quality time than is possible, forgetting that I am no longer the little girl I once was. And I get so annoyed at being treated like I cannot yet look after myself or make my own choices! Still, even in the midst of these moments, I cherish the warmth of family gatherings, the incredible food, and the joy of watching my children bond with their grandmother.
When I stay in Ireland (like this year), I find solace in the simplicity of the season. No long travels, no unrealistic expectations—just time to rest, enjoy the twinkling Christmas lights of Dublin, and savour more intimate moments with my children. I also avoid the annoyance at being treated like a child who cannot make her own choices or take care of herself. But still, there’s a part of me that misses the vibrancy of family and the celebrations I experienced as a child. I remember Christmas Eve at my grandmother's house, the excitement of midnight when the “empty packages” were suddenly filled with gifts. My cousins and I lining up like runners at the blocks, waiting for the signal to open the presents. That moment will always be the heart of Christmas for me, and yet, I need to keep reminding myself these scenes, these emotions, cannot be recreated. It is sad, but at the same time it is wonderful that I should have been fortunate enough to experience them.
So, this year, I’ve decided to approach Christmas with intention. Here’s my plan—flexible, but with a deep sense of gratitude for whatever comes my way:
Spend quality time with my children
Honor my need for rest
Read a good book
Walk in nature
Use my phone less
Leave space for my yoga, Pilates, and meditation practice
Enjoy runs in the park with my dog
Prepare a festive meal from Avoca and bake my favorite pecan and chocolate pie
Connect with friends
Embrace the warmth of Richard’s family on the 25th
Eat in moderation
Savor every moment, without rushing to the next thing
I may not check off every item on this list, and that’s okay. What matters is that I remain present, grateful, and open to the beauty of the season, however it unfolds.
Are you making your own list this year? What are your hopes for this December? Whether you’re filled with anticipation or find yourself dreading certain aspects of the season, here are some affirmations to help you navigate:
I have the power to choose who I spend my time with, and I choose love and respect
I am worthy of love and kindness every day of my life
My worth is not determined by my circumstances, but by my very existence
I do not have to believe everything others say. I choose my own path
I define myself through my actions, not by others’ opinions
I am a good person, and I deserve happiness
I already have everything I need to find peace and joy within
I create the peaceful environment I seek
I am love, and I radiate love to those around me
What affirmations would you add to this list? Share them in the comments—I’d love to hear your thoughts. Above all, I wish you a peaceful, joyful December, filled with love, light, and meaningful moments. Wherever you are, however you celebrate, may this season bring you what you need most: peace, warmth, and connection.
With love and light, always.
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